No-Cry Discipline Solution Book Giveaway & Review
The timing of the no-cry discipline solution arriving on my doorstep was impeccable. I was losing my cool with my three-year-old fast. In fact, when I heard the postman it took every inch of self-control not to swing the door open and scream” WHAT?”.
People seem surprised when I admit to having behavior challenges with my kids. It’s like they assume because I have a large family I must actually know what I’m doing.
I often say that my children are not exact clones of one another so I can’t build on my knowledge each time. Each child is different so I am always learning and never quite mastering the art of parenting.
Elizabeth Pantley’s approach (in all her books) is gentle and one that enables parents to accept their imperfections whilst inspiring them to grow in their parenting. For this reason, I warm to her books and embrace her parenting wisdom.
“Parental discipline is about helping our children create a foundation of strong values, morals, and guidelines that they can use for a lifetime of self-discipline”
Written in the foreword by Tim Seldin
(president of the Montessori foundation)
It simplifies discipline doesn’t it? It doesn’t have to be harsh or negative. It is about teaching our kids values (e.g don’t hit people with sticks) and equipping them with skills for life. We can do this gently by guiding them in their behavior. It doesn’t mean threatening or punishing or trying to change the very essence of who they are.
My lesson in self-control…
Self-control? My 3 year old has none. His tantrums are momentous and oh so very long (current record stands at 45 minutes). Normally after listening to his hysterical screaming and whining I’m all out of self-control too.
This is why I loved the section on a peaceful home: Staying calm and avoiding anger…for me!
I try to be a gentle parent and I love my kids more than life itself but I would be lying if I said I always spoke in quiet, calm tones to my children. I yell, I rant, I rave and occasionally lose control. It always leaves me riddled with guilt and feeling like a complete failure as a mother.
This book suggests ways to stop a normal angry response before it escalates whilst offering non-judgemental reassurance that ALL parents struggle with self-control at times.
So this was a very timely read for my family and my sanity. It reminded me of discipline strategies that I had forgotten as well as offering fresh insight and ideas. It also has a section on solutions to specific behaviors such as back-talk, tantrums and shopping-misbehavior. What parent isn’t familiar with shopping mis-behavior?