No-Cry Discipline Solution Book Giveaway & Review
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November 16, 2012 •
The timing of the no-cry discipline solution arriving on my doorstep was impeccable. I was losing my cool with my three-year-old fast. In fact, when I heard the postman it took every inch of self-control not to swing the door open and scream” WHAT?”.
People seem surprised when I admit to having behavior challenges with my kids. It’s like they assume because I have a large family I must actually know what I’m doing.
I often say that my children are not exact clones of one another so I can’t build on my knowledge each time. Each child is different so I am always learning and never quite mastering the art of parenting.
Elizabeth Pantley’s approach (in all her books) is gentle and one that enables parents to accept their imperfections whilst inspiring them to grow in their parenting. For this reason, I warm to her books and embrace her parenting wisdom.
Put simply….
“Parental discipline is about helping our children create a foundation of strong values, morals, and guidelines that they can use for a lifetime of self-discipline”
Written in the foreword by Tim Seldin
(president of the Montessori foundation)
It simplifies discipline doesn’t it? It doesn’t have to be harsh or negative. It is about teaching our kids values (e.g don’t hit people with sticks) and equipping them with skills for life. We can do this gently by guiding them in their behavior. It doesn’t mean threatening or punishing or trying to change the very essence of who they are.
My lesson in self-control…
Self-control? My 3 year old has none. His tantrums are momentous and oh so very long (current record stands at 45 minutes). Normally after listening to his hysterical screaming and whining I’m all out of self-control too.
This is why I loved the section on a peaceful home: Staying calm and avoiding anger…for me!
I try to be a gentle parent and I love my kids more than life itself but I would be lying if I said I always spoke in quiet, calm tones to my children. I yell, I rant, I rave and occasionally lose control. It always leaves me riddled with guilt and feeling like a complete failure as a mother.
This book suggests ways to stop a normal angry response before it escalates whilst offering non-judgemental reassurance that ALL parents struggle with self-control at times.
So this was a very timely read for my family and my sanity. It reminded me of discipline strategies that I had forgotten as well as offering fresh insight and ideas. It also has a section on solutions to specific behaviors such as back-talk, tantrums and shopping-misbehavior. What parent isn’t familiar with shopping mis-behavior?
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This looks like a very interesting read, and a good reminder for all of us – very interested in reading what she has to say!!
I would like to win this book because I can see myself already getting frustrated from time to time.
I would love to have a copy for myself and my partner to prepare for when our 2 month old starts to need loving discipline.
With 3 kids coming up to the teen years and a two year old that loves to push boundaries I could really use this!
I could really do with this book, tempers have flared here more than once recently and miss 2s tantrums have been epic, including one recently that went for 40 minutes and another at 3 in the morning!
I found the no-cry sleep solution a valuable tool, so would love to read this one too.
I enjoyed the no cry sleep solution and love her philosophies. I’d love to read this book because my eldest son turns 2 next month and I’m facing new challenges with his behaviour all the time. I earnestly want to do the right thing by him and my daughter as they grow… And sometimes new ideas and philosophies different to those you inherit are important.
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My little girl turned 2 in September. I am currently 38 weeks pregnant, big and tired, and haven’t been able to play with her the way she wants me to for a while now, and it’s made her mad at me. Plus we have had some wider family issues that have caused some stress and I have no doubt that she has picked up on this too. Her sleeping and behaviour has been impacted, right before her new little sister will arrive to rock her world. It’s a tough time for my lil girl poor wee thing. I am currently reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution, my last hope in a sea of sleeping books and was not aware of this Discipline Solution one. I am going to buy it if I don’t win it – we seriously need it in our house right now. Apart from anything esle, if she doesn’t stop standing on the dinner table I am going to lose my mind!!! Thank you for bringing the book to my attention
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Thanks for all the replies ladies…interesting to read where everyone is at! Keep ‘em coming! xo
I think I **NEED** this book as I am homeschooling my 5 and 3 year old’s and need the stress relief of a good book at night
*sigh* Oh Tara. I cried and was empathetic in every sense of the matter. Tantrums 2 year olds and 3 years old for that matter are the pits. I guess my heart sank because I hear your words and echo every element at my own home. My toddler has very much been trying and testing and all that goes with learning to develop and be able to have some ounce of self-control.
It is me that is failing him. It is me trying to find self control and not become the whirlwind force of nature that deters him and sets him of course. Thanks for the read idea. Will log it on my book list
Have a great weekend and please share how some of your boundaries and measures of self control go. I just felt like there was another mum echoing the same battles on the field as me right now
I have a one year old, and Im pretty sure the challenging times are yet to come, but even now I find myself losing my temper at a toddler and feel terrible about myself. I would love to read some tips on how to manage my emotions in the face of an irrational toddler.
I was raised in a corporal punishment disciplinarian family and am attempting to break this cycle with my own children. So far i have 1 eighteen month old baby and have tried to embrace attachment parenting and gentle parenting approaches but it’s not easy when your tool box from childhood useless.i would love to win thus boo, it looks like something i need to read to help me on my journey. thank you!
I’d love this for my eager to learn/understand husband. He tries hard with our toddler but with number 2 on the way he’s afraid he won’t be able to do it.
Hi Tara, you KNOW I need this! Plus I will donate it to my playgroup library afterwards.
xxx
“I yell, I rant, I rave, and occasionally I lose control” sounds like you were quoting me! And in addition it doesn’t even work. I’m so worked up and the kids barely notice or understand why I’m so upset. I would love some new ideas and strategies that actually work.
We have totally lost control of our 3-year old and am frantically pulling my hair in frustration. This book may be our saving grace!
I really need this book. My boy is nearly 3 and there are many tears in our household at the moment, I never imagined one little person could have so many tantrums
I love the honesty in your review,
I have a child with behaviour challenges too!
I’d love advice on bringing peace into our house
This helpful book would greatly benefit myself and my spouse!